Heart and Mind Matters: June 18

Last Tuesday, Neil came home from work and said, “You know, for people whose logo carries the words  “Purpose, Passion, Play”, we’ve been awfully serious lately!”  I just looked at him blankly, thinking, “What do you mean?  We’re the most fun-loving, playful we know!”  Yet, when I really thought about it, I realized, by gosh, he’s right!  Between the fatigue, the broken toe, the Trilotherapy studying and the in-depth self-analysis that I’ve been going through over the last few weeks, the last month or two has been pretty intense.  Even the book I’m reading for ‘entertainment’ right now is pretty darn heavy!  I’m reading “Infidel” the memoires of Ayaan Hirsi Ali, a political rebel and activist who shares the horrors of her life in Africa and Saudi Arabia.

So we decided to break the cycle of intensity… and we started by watching the movie “Identity Theft” – pure silly, fun – a film that made us laugh and had a nice feel good message to it, too.  Laughter is a great way to recalibrate the serious-o-meter!

I wondered, “Ok, so what next?”  I pulled out some of the handouts that I give to people in my Lunch n Learn sessions to remind myself of the ways I can lighten up my life.  I’m sharing some of these tips with you, now, in the hopes you’ll find them useful… or at the very least they’ll make you smile!

*      Accept that some days you’re the pigeon and some days you’re the statue.

*      Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

*      Be physically active, even if it just means standing up at your desk every 15 minutes.

*      Drive carefully.  It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.

*      Never buy a car you can’t push.

*      Laugh.

*      Know that nobody cares if you can’t dance well, so just get up and dance!

*     Dance like nobody’s watching!

*      Consider that the second mouse gets the cheese.

*      Know that when everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

*     Think about birthdays as being good for you.  After all, the more you have, the longer you live!

*      Remember that you may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

*      We could learn a lot from crayons.  Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull.  Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

*      Be a truly happy person – enjoy scenery on detours!

*     Express your gratitude for at least 3 things or people in your life, every day.

*      Live life as the adventure it is meant to be – explore and delight in your findings!

*      Close your eyes and turn your face toward the sun.  Feel the warmth of the sunshine and breathe deeply.

*      Do what you love to do more often.

*      Accept that, unless you’re a dog, a little bit of chocolate won’t kill you.

*      Flow.  If you cannot flow, flee!      (Take breaks from your tasks, duties and the people around you!)

*     Continue to learn and grow!

*     Celebrate!

*      Aim to be in relationship and enjoy others, rather than worry about being right!

Please write to us at info@bestucanb.caand let us know what your favourite ways to lighten up are… and we’ll happily share them with our readers next week.

In the meantime, create a playful week! 

The difference between Scary and Exciting

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The only difference between scary and exciting is breathing!

When you hold your breath, you tense up and feel scared.  When you breathe deeply, you relax your body and open your mind so you can feel excited.  Tina Thrussell is definitely deep breathing today!

“Over the last couple of months, I (Tina) have been a guest co-host on Cheri Valentine’s internet radio show Planting Seeds of Love, which she has been hosting for a year now on A2Zen.fm. 

Well, today I step into the world of big commitment and move from guest co-host to official co-host!  I am very excited to announce that we have renamed the show Seeds of Love, we have selected new music for the introduction, we’ve set a new time slot (we move to 2:00 pm Mtn today) and we’re feeling great about engaging in this journey of exploration…

and we invite you to join us for the journey!

logoseedsofloveWhy would you want to listen to our radio show? 

Love is always the answer! 

Break down everything in the human experience, and the basic seed beneath every issue is love – the desire for love or the absence of love.

Cheri and I share a vision that Seeds of Love will illuminate ways to weed and feed your soul, nurture your Self and expand your love to deepen your relationships (with others and yourself!) and enrich your life. 

Each Tuesday we will share our personal stories and funny anecdotes to reveal real life examples of the challenges we all face in this human experience, and offer you tools to get you past those challenges.  We’re here to help you nourish your gardens of love!

We broadcast live each Tuesday at 2:00 pm Mtn and we invite you to telephone us at 815-880-8255 or join us in the on-line chat room (use the chat tab at the top of the home page – you’ll need to create an account first, so go to the right-hand column at a2zen.fm and under the big yellow Listen button, there is a place to sign up – it’s F.REE!).  In the chat room you can post your comments, questions and feedback, which we will address live on the show.

If you can’t join us live on the A2Zen.fm home page, you can go back and listen to the archives which we post on the media page of our www.bestucanb.ca  website. 

Here’s a bit more on today’s show and a direct link to listen in:  http://a2zen.fm/events/attitude-are-you-consciously-choosing-yours

June 4, 2013 – Attitude – Are You Consciously Choosing Yours?

It may sound cliché, but the question, “Is the class half empty of half full?” really does define attitude.  Attitude is simply a choice! No matter what is happening in your life, or how out of control you might feel, you can always choose how you want to see and respond to the situation.

Relationships can be strengthened or broken depending on your attitude.  Cheri and Tina will go deep into the subject in this episode of Seeds of Love.  You will learn how and where you have more power than you ever realized.

If you have ideas or thoughts you want to share with us, call 815-880-8255 during the live show and receive some very special f.ree gifts!

9 Rules for a Simpler Day

By Leo Babauta

Our days fill up so fast, and are so rushed and filled with distractions, that they seem to be bursting.

It’s a huge source of stress for most people, and stress is perhaps the most important factor determining whether we’re healthy or sick.

So how can we simplify our days? It’s not incredibly hard, but I’ve found it’s best done in steps.

These are the steps I followed, though of course calling them “rules” means we should test them and break them as needed. No rules should be followed blindly. I’ve found these to work really well, though.

See below for my June Challenge to help you implement a simpler day.

9 Rules for a Simpler Day

These are the rules I suggest:

  1. Know What’s Important. The simple version of simplifying is “Identify what’s important, and eliminate the rest.” So take time to identify the most important things in your life (4-5 things), and then see what activities, tasks, projects, meeting and commitments fit in with that list. Also take time each day to identify 1-3 Most Important Tasks (MITs), at the beginning of your day. Or the night before, for the next day.
  2. Visualize Your Perfect Day. This is not so much because this “perfect day” will come true, as it is to understand what a simple day means to you. It’s different for each person — for me, it might mean some meditation and writing and spending time with my wife and kids. For others, it’s yoga and painting and a hot bath. For others, it’s time to focus on the important work, but still get other things done later in the day. Take a minute to visualize what it means to you.
  3. Say No to Extra Commitments. Now that you’ve identified what’s important, along with the “perfect day”, you need to start saying “No” to things that aren’t on your important list, and that are standing in the way of the perfect day. The biggest thing you can say No to is a commitment — membership on a committee, involvement in a project, coaching or participating in a team, going to an event, being a partner in a business, etc. List and evaluate your commitments (professional, civic and personal), and say No to at least one. It just takes a call or email.
  4. Limit Tasks. Each morning, list your 1-3 most important tasks. List other tasks you’d like to do. Say no to some of them. See if you can limit your list to 5-7 tasks per day (not counting little things, which you’ll batch). Limiting your tasks helps you focus, and acknowledges you’re not going to get everything done in one day.
  5. Carve Out Un-distraction Time. When are you going to do your most important work? Schedule it with a block of time (1 hour, 2 hours, 4 hours, whatever works for you). Make this your most sacred appointment. Become incommunicado. Close the Internet, all notifications, hold all calls. Just do the most important task, then the next one if you have time.
  6. Slow Down. We rush through our days, almost in a single frenetic anxiety-filled non-stop movement. Instead, slow down. Life won’t collapse if you aren’t rushing from task to task, email to email. You can pause, take a moment to reflect, smile, enjoy the current task before moving on.
  7. Mindfully Single-task. Stop multi-tasking. One task at a time, with full focus on that task. Practice mindfulness as you do the task — it’s a form of meditation. Watch your thoughts wander to what you need to do later, but then return to the task at hand. Your day will be much simpler, and much more enjoyable, when you practice being present with your current task.
  8. Batch Smaller Tasks, Then Let go. Email, paperwork, little things at the bottom of your task list (create a “small tasks” section at the bottom), minor phone calls, etc. … these shouldn’t get in the way of your important tasks. But they still need to be done sometime (unless you can let them go, which is best whenever possible). If you need to do them, batch them and do them in one go. It’s best to do these later in the day, when your energy is lower and you’ve done the important tasks for the day. Don’t let the small tasks get in the way of the big ones. When you’ve done a batch of small tasks (including processing email), let them go, and get out. You don’t want to do this all day, or even half a day.
  9. Create Space Between. We cram our tasks and meetings together, and leave no spaces between them. The space between things is just as important as the things themselves. Leave a little space between meetings, even tasks. Take a break to stretch, walk around, get a glass of water, perhaps do some simple breathing meditation for a minute or two. Enjoy the space.

Sea Change Simplify Your Day Challenge

I invite you to join my June Challenge to Simplify Your Day, by signing up for my Sea Change Program.

How does the challenge work? We’ll have a “Say No” habit for you to do every day, but it will have a different focus each week (commitments, tasks, single-tasking, etc.).

You’ll also be able to use the forums and accountability teams in the Sea Change Program, and I’ll hold a live webinar and share 2-4 articles on the topic.

Track Your Challenge Habit on Lift

Finally, we’re adding a new tool to this challenge: a Sea Change group on Lift, which is a great habit app for the iPhone (and now with a web app version in beta). You’ll use Lift to log your habit each day, and we’ll all be able to see each other’s progress and encourage each other. Fun!

To join the group on Lift, please sign up for Sea Change, and I’ll be notifying the Sea Change members of how to join the Lift group and challenge.

Article source: http://zenhabits.net/simple-day/